What’s it like to be a Matchmaker in New York?
Suzanne Oshima is a Matchmaker & Dating Coach in New York, NY and it’s the number one question both men and women, single and married, ask her all the time.
Matchmaking in New York is an intriguing and fun job, but what a lot of people don’t realize is while it’s a lot of fun and it has it’s benefits, it’s also a lot of hard work!
So, we sat down with Suzanne, the Matchmaker to find out what it’s really like to be a Matchmaker & Dating Coach in New York, the most exciting city in the United States.
How did you become a Matchmaker & Dating Coach?
I worked in advertising for over 14 years. While I learned a lot and I really liked it at the time, it wasn’t my true calling.
I was always intrigued with the dating industry. Before the internet and online dating, people met each other through classified newspaper ads (yes, really!).
In 2001, I got laid off from my job and knew this was the right time to start my own business. So, I first launched an online dating site with a reality TV flare. The men and women on the site could go on the site to vote for the hottest bachelors and bachelorettes, and at the same time meet them.
I found I really loved working with men and women one-on-one, so in 2008, I transitioned it to an offline matchmaking and date coaching agency, here in New York.
What type of matchmaking clients do you work with?
In the matchmaking industry, you will find that most Matchmakers work with either men or women as their clients, but usually not both. In New York, I like, most Matchmakers work with men as my clients.
There’s a misconception out there, that if you a man hires a Matchmaker, he must be desperate. And that’s the furthest from the truth!
My male matchmaking clients are attractive, successful men, who have very little free time. And they are the type of men, who don’t have time to do online dating. Because what most people don’t realize is, online dating is a lot of work. It’s almost like a full time job to sort through profiles, contact women and then set up a date.
My male clients are CEO’s, CFO’s, Attorneys, Doctors, Serial Entrepreneurs, and Financial Executives. They’re smart men, who just don’t want to waste time and hire a Matchmaker.
Believe it or not, hiring a Matchmaker is a lot like hiring a Real Estate Agent. When you want to buy a house, you tell the Real Estate Agent, everything that you are looking for: 3 bedrooms, bathrooms, and neighborhood. The Real Estate Agent is going to do all the work to find you the best houses that fit your criteria, before she even sets up an appointment for you to see the house.
It’s the same thing with a Matchmaker. As a Matchmaker, I will find out everything that you’re looking for in your ideal woman. I want to know first what type of look you’re attracted to, as men are first and foremost very visual. So looks are the most important. Then I want to know what other qualities and interests, you’re looking for in your dream woman. And it’s also important for me to know what your deal breakers are. As a Matchmaker, I screen every single woman to make sure she meets the client’s criteria and doesn’t have any of his deal breakers.
How does the Matchmaking process work & what makes you different?
Matchmaking is very personalized service. My matchmaking service is more about Quality vs. Quantity.
Some Matchmakers in New York, give their clients an unlimited number of introductions within a specific time frame. While that may sound good, what it basically means is, they’re just setting the client up with everybody and anybody.
That’s where I’m different, as a Matchmaker. I focus more on quality introductions for my clients. I want to make sure that every woman I set up my client with is what he’s looking for and doesn’t have any of his deal breakers.
Also, as a Matchmaker, I focus on two-way matchmaking, which a lot of Matchmakers in New York don’t. My first priority is to make sure I meet my client’s needs and what he’s looking for, but then I also personally screen every single woman who joins my matchmaking service. First I want to make sure she’s what my client is looking for, but then I want to also find out what she’s looking for and what her deal breakers are.
Two way matchmaking entails matching based on the specifics needs of each person, but then secondarily going on my gut instinct and intuition.
What other services do you offer besides matchmaking?
In addition to matchmaking, I also offer date coaching, image & style makeovers and a date concierge service.
I always give my clients first date tips and advice before they even go out with the first introduction. Even the most experienced dater, will learn some key first date tips from me. One of my clients told me that the first date tips I gave him, has completely changed the way women respond to him on first date.
I will also pull together first date outfits for my clients, because what men don’t realize is, that’s where women can be very superficial. If a man isn’t wearing the right clothes and shoes on a first date, it can make or break the date. Women will first look at a man and determine in her mind if he fits in with her fashion sense. You only have one chance to make a first impression!
And if a client requires a new wardrobe, I will do personal shopping for date outfits at his favorite clothing store.
Do you think it’s harder to be a Matchmaker in New York than other cities?
Actually, I think being a Matchmaker in New York is really the best city in the United States to be a Matchmaker.
The single men in New York are some of the most confident, successful men I have ever met. New York men are successful and they don’t mind paying for a matchmaking service, as long as it’s going to bring them what they want and save them time in the process.
And New York women are really some of the most beautiful women, I have ever met. They’re not only beautiful, they’re also smart and successful.
What do you love about being a Matchmaker?
Matchmaking and date coaching is really my passion. I’ve always had a bleeding heart in helping others.
When my clients tell me I’ve completely changed their love life, that really makes my day…and just validates, why I work so hard at what I do.
I never dreamed of being a Matchmaker & Dating Coach when I was little…but I finally feel like I’m working at my dream job!
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