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Is She Interested in Me for the Right Reasons?

matchmaker dating coach for menWith anything in life, we must take the good along with the bad. Dating beautiful women is no exception. Some are completely pure with their intentions, while others are after nothing more than a paycheck and free ride when it comes to pursuing successful men. So, it leaves a lot of men wondering, is she interested in me for the right reasons?

For those of us who are deemed successful in the financial department by society, it is important that we keep our guard up and make the distinction between women who are in it for the money, and those who have a genuine interest. Otherwise ten years later, we may find ourselves lawyered up, and clinging to that last hard earned dollar that we spent so much time working for, wondering where it all went wrong.

How to Tell if She is Really Interested in You:


1. She constantly brings up money and possessions.

As the old saying goes, “if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, and acts like a duck, odds are, it’s a duck!”

Dating should be about getting to know the other person from the inside, not what type of car he drives, if his house has a beach side view, or what his salary is. Any woman who is focusing mainly on possessions, is either shallow, or on the date for the wrong reasons.

2. She is asking very few personal questions.

Women who have a genuine interest in a man will ask them personal questions about what their family is like, if they have siblings, what they are passionate about, etc. This is a sign of genuine interest. Women who either talk only about themselves, or make nothing but basic small talk, are not showing a true interest in getting to know the other person.

3. She is always suggesting the nicest restaurants in town.

In this day and age, there is nothing wrong with a man asking for a woman’s input in what she wants to do, or where she wants to go. But when a woman is constantly suggesting places that are extremely upscale, or strongly hinting at wanting to go on dates that will cost a lot of money, this is a red flag.

This not only shows that the woman constantly expects nothing short of the best, but reveals she is far from down to earth as well. A girl who can hold her on a both a five star restaurant, and a hole in the wall bar is a true keeper.

4. She is acting like a fan.

Some women will act like gushing fans over all the adventures and experiences that successful men have had. It’s a good thing when a woman is impressed by your life. But when that crosses over to a never-ending barrage of questions, as well as a vocally expressed desire to experience the same things that you have, she may be more interested in the lifestyle, than you as an actual person. Sometimes this is hard to gauge, but be on the lookout for these types of women.

5. She ignores the little things.

When women never make polite gestures, or never go out of their way to make your life a little bit easier, this is a bad sign. Relationships should always be as close as possible to having a fifty/fifty balance, with each person wanting to make the other person as happy as they can to their full potential. When women fail to put in any effort, there is usually a reason.

About the Author: Joshua Pompey

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by Suzanne Oshima

Suzanne K. Oshima is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach & Founder at Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette. She is also the Founder of Single in Stilettos, which gives women the best dating advice & tips to help them meet, attract & keep the one. Suzanne has been seen on Bravo TV, The Today Show, Good Afternoon America, Inside Edition, BBC Radio, Glamour Magazine, Men’s Health and much more!

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