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How To Flirt with a Girl Over Texting

how to flirt over textingIt’s time to face facts.  Like it or not, we are all living in a fast paced, technology driven world, completely dominated by sound bit news and fleeting attention spans.  To say that the average person has the attention span of a fruit fly in 2013 would be a nice compliment.

While some of us may long for the glory days where Twitter didn’t qualify as newsworthy journalism, the truth is, this trend is not going anywhere.  And even more importantly, this shift in the attention spans will have a direct impact on our dating lives.

These days, short attention spans must be taken into account when dating women.  But as much as women may sometimes flake out on what seemed like a genuine interest, we all have one weapon to make sure we stay on their minds long after meeting.

Cell phones.

That’s right.  These days the phone is a critical factor in maintaining interest; building comfort, and keeping ourselves fresh in the minds of the women we date.  If we become part of her daily routine via the phone with proper texting, we will stay on their minds and escalate the relationship much quicker.

Let’s take a look at a how to flirt with a girl over texting:


1.     If you meet a woman on your daily routine, always text the same day, or the next day at the latest.

The sooner you act, the fresher you will stay on a woman’s mind, and the more you will keep the flow going.

2.     Don’t overdue it.

Maintaining interest is the goal.  Overburdening a woman to the point where you become annoying and less interesting is not.  Unless she is taking a strong lead and encouraging a lot of texting, a few texts a day, or every other day is more than sufficient.  Women will give clues as to when enough is enough.  If she stops asking questions, back off.

3.     Use texting as an opportunity to flirt.

Asking questions such as “what’s up?” or “how are you?” will come across as forced and lame.  Instead, tease and flirt with women and raise that sexual tension.  Just remember, there is a fine line between flirting and being creepy.  Keep things on the P.C. side and stick to light teasing.

4.     Create inside jokes.

I can’t stress this enough.  Creating these types of jokes through a text will not only strengthen the bond, sub-consciously making women feel as if they have known you for longer than they have, but they will also give you plenty of fun material to joke about when the first date comes.

When all is said and done, our phones are extremely important these days.  Don’t run the risk of losing a beautiful woman’s attention to another man.  Get your phone skills up to speed, and keep women’s focus where it needs to be in this fast paced world.

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by Suzanne Oshima

Suzanne K. Oshima is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach & Founder at Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette. She is also the Founder of Single in Stilettos, which gives women the best dating advice & tips to help them meet, attract & keep the one. Suzanne has been seen on Bravo TV, The Today Show, Good Afternoon America, Inside Edition, BBC Radio, Glamour Magazine, Men’s Health and much more!

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